PLAYING AROUND WITH A "PLAYER"

Hello:

I am paraphrasing this situation from an article in my local newspaper.    A young woman’s girlfriend is living with a guy who is an unabashed,”player.”  The girlfriend asked her if she saw her man with another woman if she would want to know?  The girlfriend said definitely yes.

One night the young woman was out with her boyfriend and saw this “player” holding another woman’s hand at the bar.   As soon as the guy realized he had been seen, --- he promptly left.   Now the girlfriend is wondering if she should tell her friend what she saw.

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My response:

To deal with the truth as accurately as possible,  the girlfriend should have approached the woman at the bar and said the following.   “We don’t know each other but I hope you will believe me when I tell you that I want to do what is best for you and for a girlfriend of mine.”

Let me ask you this.   What did your male friend say was the reason why he left so abruptly?    Whatever way she responds you could then add.   Do you know that he is living with another woman and that most of the time she works while he --- “plays around?”

This behavior is the most straight forward and will probably catch him in a lie to his second female "friend."  It will also make it more likely that his “first” woman who is working to look after him will see  the truth  and react correctly.   If she does not, --- you just might lose a friend and it probably would be in your favor in the long run.    

If this girl does not get away from this loser, his dishonesty will finally catch up with her and it might cause her to have a long lasting depression from the follow up to this guy’s terrible behavior.   Especially if a baby is involved.